All The Ways We Cheat And How To Define It

While it is clear that infidelity remains among the top reasons for a relationship’s demise, how the act is defined lacks the same transparency. The definition of cheating can vary dramatically based upon sex, culture, age, and individual ideologies governing monogamy. For example, studies reveal that adolescents are more likely to associate cheating with sexual …

3 Ways to Stop Harmful Self-Sabotage

It sounds counter-intuitive to human nature—the idea of harming oneself. Why would anyone actively participate in self-sabotage when their entire biological system is meticulously constructed to promote their survival? We self-sabotage consciously and unconsciously. Yet, we do and we do it well. Through both conscious and unconscious methods, we tirelessly engage in behaviors that block …

Lessons from the Snowy Season

Thematic traits in literature set in wintertime focus on moments and stories filled with solitude, grief, depression, and death. While those are present in winter and there are reasons for their presence, winter also holds space and lessons in flourishing, replenishment, and attentiveness. Beauty stirs out of the rawness and vulnerability of winter. It comes …

How To Be a Decent Human Being

It is not unusual to witness tears or despair during therapy. The ending of a relationship, relentless work demands, financial insecurity, unexpected life transitions—people express sadness for what is happening in their life in nearly every session. But lately, their sadness has little to do with themselves or their own tribulations. Their tears are dedicated …